As I unpack my suitcase after a four-hour nap that followed my three-hour flight from Missouri, I’m listening to “Age of Aquarius.”
I’m thinking back on all the bull I heard back home. So much bull. Don’t get me wrong, I love everyone back home, but…
My closeted gay friend who will not bite the bullet and ask this guy out in his class because he cares TOO MUCH about what others think of his sexual orientation.
The grapevine told me another friend is acting like a preschooler because his friend asked out his crush and now nobody is talking to anyone else.
And what’s worst, my high school brother just celebrated his six-month anniversary with his girlfriend.
Since when did my college friends turn into high school n00bs and my high school brother turn into an adult?
Where does this leave me? I can’t change my gay friend, I can only gently reassure him. I can’t tell my other friend to grow up… well because he’s 6’1” and I’m 5’3”. You get the point. Telling people what to do doesn’t change anything. We can only change ourselves.
I think back to an article I read called “You Need To Go After The Things You Want” and you can find the link here. It basically sums up my thoughts for me.
The article talks about how we can’t live a life of “what if I did that?” when we can live a life of “oh well, it happened.” As people, especially young people, we bottle up our feelings and pretend nothing bothers us. But we weren’t designed to do that.
We’re humans. Messy, gooey, cell-filled humans. And even though we were told our cells are full of intercellular fluid, we’re also full of raw emotions. We keep these emotions to ourselves and some of us blow up, or worse, live an unsatisfactory life.
But, we don’t need to go after the things we want because we want them. Sure, internships and girlfriends are cool. It’s not about that. It’s about getting out of our comfort zone to reach for something greater. To show vulnerability.
If we take chances now, when we’re young, we grow. We become more comfortable trying new things and sometimes that inspires other people to leave their comfort zones, even for a second. Being scared, to be vulnerable, is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of strength and confidence in one’s self.
Come on guys, confidence is key. Even if you’re terrified—nobody has to know.
Just jump into it, take a breath and just do it. Apologize to that person, tell that girl you think she’s pretty, thank your cashier, start up a non-academic chat with your professor. Don’t think, trust.
As for me, I can only help myself. I’m going to ask out the cute boy down the hall.