I Am So Scared

| May 26, 2014 | 4 Comments

A matter of days ago, a 22 year old man went to a UCSB sorority and killed people. He was a murderer, and now he is dead too. But I am still so scared, because there are so many people who agree with what he did. These are comments from the YouTube video that the murderer posted explaining his plan to kill all the blondes he could find and more (click to enlarge):Screen Shot 2014-05-25 at 2.30.14 PMScreen Shot 2014-05-25 at 2.30.27 PMThis is so terrifying. These men are calling him a hero. They agree with him, and they admire him. They idolize him, and I will not be shocked if there is another shooting soon because of this. And these men could be anywhere. They could be here, at BU. They could be one of my customers today. They could be someone you pass on the street. There are so many comments saying things like “More women have to die,” and that makes me so sad. Why do I have to die? Why do my sisters and my friends have to die?

The shooter said, “Women should not have the right to choose who to mate and breed with. That decision should be made for them by rational men of intelligence.” Girls do not owe anyone a charity bang. We don’t owe anyone even a second of our attention if we don’t want to give it. To those who call the killer a hero, I know that no matter what anyone says to you, you will still believe that you have every right to a woman’s body even if she says no. You will still believe that this murder is justified.

And to the guys who say that we’re “treating nice guys like shit,” do you really think a nice guy is one who murders? And do you really think that if I said yes, it would keep me from getting killed?

Yes, not all men are murderers. But look at it this way: if I give you a plate of maybe 20 cupcakes, and I tell you that two of them are poisoned, are you going to take a cupcake? One man might actually be a nice guy, but from things like this, we’ve learned we can’t trust him.

Now we know that there are so many men out there who believe all women should be murdered. Now we know that no one is really safe anymore, and I am so scared.

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Kate Conroy

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Kate Conroy comes from a small town in South Jersey where she has two little sisters and many cats. She is a Leo and an English major, and she will defend the Oxford comma forever. She is extremely controlling, and that's probably why she writes fiction. She also watches too much television and takes too many pictures of herself. Follow her on twitter and instagram: @K4TE8

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  1. Chad says:

    “an hero” is an Internet meme associated with suicide. I think the YouTube commenter be trollin’…

  2. Alumna says:

    Guys… don’t you think ‘an hero’ was obviously a joke? I know it isn’t 2008 anymore, but memes don’t die.

    Anyway, what was the purpose of this article? Every girl has experienced ‘that guy’ who gets defensive and says disgusting nonsense when he is rejected. Yes, there are men out there who think that this sick creep was justified in his actions. But you think that a poisoned cupcake gives you a reason to lay off cakes? Maybe we should spend more time trying to stop the poisoning at a young age, teaching children to respect each other, and teaching students to communicate in a healthy way, instead of responding to irrational nonsense with irrational fear.

    • Kate Conroy Kate Conroy says:

      I don’t think it’s an irrational fear. Girls keep dying because men think they have a right to their bodies. Recently there was Maren Sanchez who was stabbed for refusing to go to prom with a boy, and then this, and there are so many other incidents. So, yeah, I’m scared to deny a guy, because I’ve been taught that he might hurt me if I do, and there are people who wouldn’t defend me.

    • JN says:

      I think this video is relevant: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10152362291265320 because I watched it before I read this article and it really hit home for me.

      There’s reason to be scared. It’s easy to point out where the problem starts and all of the causes that engender behavior and tragedies like these, but it’s difficult to enact change within society, especially change that challenges deep-rooted preconceived notions.

      Sorority girls (and girls in general, but mainly the ones involved in sororities since this was the case with this particular shooting) are pinned with stereotypes of being shallow and condescending and then get criticized for rejecting a guy because in the eyes of the wrong person, she most likely rejected him for a shallow reason. She gets a bad reputation based on a stereotype.

      As a minority, I know all too well how it feels to be oppressed by a stereotype that you don’t even personify and to watch as others are shot down or brutally killed because of it. There’s a natural fear that builds up as a result, and it’s not easy to just shake it off in hopes that change can maybe start with the next generation or the next. Change needs to start as soon as possible. Adults need to be encouraged to communicate in a healthier way and endeavor to break prejudices just as much as kids need to be encouraged not to form them.

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